By CAROLINE SPOSTO

Dear Caroline,

I recently met a great guy. We had so much chemistry, so much fun and so much in common it seemed we were made for each other. I don’t usually move fast, but I ended up spending the night with him after our second date. I thought it was the start of something big. A few days later, I sent him a romantic meme. He ignored it for a day and then sent me a text telling me he likes me but isn’t looking for a serious relationship.

Still, something tells me he’s afraid of his feelings and has just temporarily gotten cold feet.

I know men go through this phase from time to time. What’s the best strategy for me to ease him past this and on to commitment?

…R

Dear R,

When someone tells you they don’t want a relationship, believe them.

Trying to coax, cajole or coerce someone into having a change of heart is like investing in lottery tickets with the hope of financial security. A few people win, while the vast majority come away empty-handed.

Lasting, loving relationships are hard to find and challenging to maintain. Pouring your time and emotions into a man who already told you he doesn’t want you puts you on a dead-end path fraught with obstacles.

Be kind to yourself. Put the odds of finding love in your favor by moving on.

Caroline

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