Dear Caroline,

I recently met a dynamite lady. She is everything I have ever imagined, plus a little more. I took her out on three dates. After the third date, I felt her interest in me cool a bit. Last week, I sent her a dozen roses, along with what I thought was an especially warm and witty note. Her “thank you” was polite, yet cold. I was surprised. I’m not trying to boast, but I’m usually sought after by women. What can I do to win this special lady’s heart?

…Thunderstruck

Dear Thunderstuck,

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but despite the plots of popular movies, songs and romance novels, if the lady doesn’t naturally reciprocate your feelings after a dozen roses and a sweet note, there’s likely nothing more you can do. No matter how ardent person’s own feelings are, it’s impossible to charm someone into loving them.

Both men and women tend to know fairly early on whether or not they’re interested in a romance. If they indicate that a person doesn’t strike their fancy or touch their heart, they owe it to themselves to move on.

Look at it this way: If you were to dive headfirst into a romance with someone who wasn’t also “all in,” you’d ultimately end up having a miserable time.

If the lady is playing “hard to get” or somehow wakes up and sees the error in her ways, you’ll hear from her.

There are nearly 8 billion people on Earth. Safe to say there’s someone for everyone.

Here’s to finding your perfect match.

Caroline

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