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Dear Caroline,

I’m 39 years old and divorced for about a year after a 12-year marriage.

My friends talked me into getting on a dating app, and the first man I met seems to be everything I had hoped for. He’s intelligent, attractive, honest, funny, thoughtful and responsible. We’ve been seeing each other for about four months.

As great as he is, I still occasionally look at other profiles and text other men on the app. I haven’t gone out with any of them because my new guy and I have agreed to an exclusive relationship. I’m happy with the new guy.

I have no complaints. Yet sometimes I wonder if I should play the field a bit more. My friends all complain that there are no good men out there, so finding a good match quickly doesn’t seem normal to me.

Should I start seeing other people?


Dear E.B.,

Some people date the way I play cards — just for fun, with minimal investment and little concern about the outcome. Others are the opposite — focused, invested and intentional.

Do a little soul-searching. Why are you dating? What do you want — one year, five years, 10 years from now?

In the world of dating apps, shuffling dates is a lot like shuffling cards.

If you’re lucky enough to get a king or queen on the first try, reshuffle at your own risk because you might just end up with a joker.

Best of luck.


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